Review & notes of 101 Secrets for Your 20s by Paul Angone

Narrated by: Kyle McCarley
Length: 3 hrs and 52 mins
Release date: 03-08-16

Introduction

So, this book is not just for people that are in their twenties. It reads a lot like the book ‘The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck’ (link to audible page) but with quite a lot of god and religious connections to it for some reason.

It’s a more of ‘what to think about’; ‘how to get your life on track’; ‘what to pay attention to & what you don’t have to pay attention to’  kind of book.  There are some genuinely interesting points for today’s modern world, and there’s a lot of ‘pat yourself on your back’ motivational kind of stuff.

Everything from relationship advice, thinking about jobs, transitions, post-college life, religion, loneliness etc is covered.

I imagine that the book’s author is an American, and that their target audience are also Americans, because that’s the only way I could justify all the Christian references in this book.

Recommendation

If you can find it on sale… or from another source, it may be worth a listen. But if you’re paying the full price for it, I wouldn’t say so.

Apparently this book was the extension of a web article called ‘21 secrets for your 20s’ which was apparently hugely popular. https://allgroanup.com/adult/21-secrets-for-your-20s/

I would say perhaps read that, and if you’ve read ‘The subtle art of not giving a fuck’ (link to in-site review) and like that kind of style, then give this a go.

It’s a relatively short book, which is why I say its not worth a full credit on audible, however if you want something to lightly think about whilst on your next big drive/ bus or train ride… then this might be for you.

It could also be something that parents listen to for subject to talk about with their children, for things they might want to be thinking about in the future, as its generation specific for today’s generation and parents might not necessarily be aware of all things that someone in their 20’s / early 30’s need to be thinking about in today’s changed environment.

Some of the advice is worth following, and in reading my notes that I took whilst listening to the book, I’d do well to follow them too.

Some choice sound bites too.

Some of the tips given throughout the book

-You need your own website, preferably one that shows what you can do.

-Failure just means you’re finding a better way to be successful.

Note to myself- Lots of weird religion crap along with it. But I guess this person is from American and that’s kind of ingrained in their culture.

Me. It’s the kind of book that lets you know that others out there are having similar issues. Know that you are not alone. Is the message and then kind of reaffirming all the things you knew that you’re meant to do, but puts it in context.

-Sometimes turn your phone off, is the best idea.

More stuff about praying though.

-Cut back on internet and TV.

-Complain, create relationship.  The more you complain, the less you create. The more you create, the less you complain.
Instead of complaining about a problem, put your efforts into creating a solution.

Me. Some of the time, I really don’t even know what he’s listing. Or counting…. I’m not sure if they’re meant to relate to me , or… Not sure.

Has an extended poem…That seems to be pretty good. At least the meaning.

-Learn how to talk about wine.

-Get a fancy pen to sit on your desk.

-LPA Level of Perceived Awesomeness.

-Be wary of ‘reality checkers’.

-He states there are people who will rattle off ‘the 7 reasons why your dream won’t work.’  But have they actually done this themselves??
Ask yourself .. how are they having the right to say what they’re saying?
Put it in context.

‘Be strategic for who you tell your Everest- Your goal.  (Your big goal)

Me. If you do tell someone your goal and its supposed to be a secret, (or maintaining the secret is key to achieving the goal) Yet this person either shuts you down, or shares the secret openly, make a note of it, to refine who you can trust in the future. Sometimes not sharing your ‘Everest’ (your big goal) can be more beneficial than sharing it. Ensure, therefore that you be strategic, like the author states… for who you share it with.

-No one knows what they’re doing.  Sometimes people have mastered perceived credibility.

-Stop looking for the right person, become the right person.

-Karaoke compatibility.  Take them to karaoke? (With regard to relationships)
Don’t really know what this has to do with relationships.

-Define what success is to you, and then you can begin chasing it.

Relationships.
-4 relationships in one.

  1. Your best friend.
  2. Lover. Because attraction is super important.
  3. Business partner.  Someone to support you.
    Needs to be someone you can talk about financials too. Need to talk about this.
  4. War time ally.  Will stick through things with you. Will you war with each other or together? Be that support for each other.

-Validation addict. It’s a real thing. On social media or whatever. The people who become addicted to ‘likes’ on social media; on hearing ‘well done’ by people, or just acceptance in any way.

-In life we are groomed for validation. Everything you do when you grow up is like this, grades, friends, sports teams.

Me. How to manage that?

-Content is no longer king, platform is.

Me. Reminds me of the subtle art of not giving a fuck, book. Like reaffirming things and then giving casual advice.  Subtle Art seems like it’s advertised for adults. 101 ways seems just like for 20 something’s.

-Ask yourself constantly,  ‘Where do I want to be? Living, waking up, wearing. Doing, travelling, experiencing?’